If you knew of a problem faced by up to 70% of today’s working population that had the ability to damage careers and hinder business growth, you would want to learn about it and solve it, right? Of course you would. You would find a way to combat the risk and make sure it didn’t impact your career or business.
The Impostor Syndrome
The Impostor Syndrome is a self-imposed belief that you are in a position where you don’t belong...that you’re in over your head. That, if anyone found out who you really are, they would know you’re not qualified to be there.
You tell yourself, “I don’t belong in this position”, “I’ve just been lucky” or “People wouldn’t appreciate the real me”.
Sound familiar? If you’re like most people who have high expectations of themselves and their capabilities, you’ve likely encountered that wonderfully supportive voice in your head. Especially if you’re in a position of responsibility and care about the perceptions of others.
Studies have shown that women are more prone to this line of thinking, especially when reaching higher level positions. But men deal with it as well. Women, you have the gift of being more attuned to the thoughts of others and that may be part of the reason. It’s becoming even more prevalent in younger generations.
There are physical symptoms associated with the Impostor Syndrome, including feelings of anxiety, fear and, in some cases, depression. In the workplace, that leads to hesitation, procrastination or even over preparation for tasks due to a higher level of self-critique. Long term it leads to fatigue and burnout from the energy you expended trying to keep up with what you believe others are thinking.
5 Practical Steps - Some Straightforward Advice
I’d like to give you five practical steps that you can take to address the issue.
First, understand that there is value in it. Most often, people are dealing with this line of thinking because they care deeply about what they’re doing and want to consistently be at their best. It means that you’re challenging your comfort zone which is the only way to grow. You’re growing courage. Lean into it. Take it as a signal that you’re on the right track and keep pushing forward. Remember that there is a difference between being "ready" for a promotion and being "fully competent" in your responsibilities. When you take on a new level of responsibility, there is going to be continued development. That's just part of it.
Second, resist the urge to pull inward. You have power in this situation and a choice about how you respond to the environment or comments of others around you. Realize that YOUR VALUE AND CAPABILITY IS NOT DEFINED BY OTHERS. It’s helpful to act with humility but taking this to an extreme can be a problem. You have to strike a balance between humility and overconfidence. If you start to ruminate on what others are thinking about you, remind yourself that your accomplishments are the result of your hard work, determination, knowledge and skill. Also, realize that often times, people are so preoccupied with themselves, they are likely not thinking about your deficiencies anyway.
Third, realize that the perfect standard that you are most likely comparing yourself to DOES NOT EXIST. If you’re comparing yourself to another high achiever, they’ve most likely dealt with it too.
Fourth, Talk about it with someone you trust. Someone who can give you a truly objective perspective.
Fifth, Fight it. Here’s what I mean. Imagine you’re out to lunch with a friend from work celebrating their recent promotion that they’ve worked extremely hard to achieve. You’re sitting at the table when a stranger walks up to your friend, looks them dead in the eye and says, “You’re a fraud and you’re not worthy to be where you are!" You wouldn’t put up with it, would you? Stop the thought cycle.. Step into it. Do something that requires you to act with greater confidence, even if it’s simply writing an audacious goal on paper. When you do this, you’re building self-discipline and actively changing your thought patterns.
Track your successes through a journal or file. Stay committed to doing your best work and actually embrace the discomfort that goes along with it. Realize that the harder you push yourself out of your comfort zone, the more likely you’ll experience this. Take it as a signal that you’re living!
Finally, there are many leaders out there that find it very difficult to provide positive feedback. Don’t be one of them. Where it’s warranted, take a few minutes and talk to members of your team about the contribution that they are making. You know the struggle they will face. Set them on a different course.
Remember - For people that are doing great things, these thoughts or feelings are not uncommon. it means that you are on the right track - That you are pushing and stretching yourself to live on the edge of your comfort zone. And that’s where life begins.